How do you feel about your significant other not wearing a wedding band?
When J and I got engaged, he was adamant from the very beginning that he didn’t want a wedding band. I blew that idea off initially, thinking I could get him to warm to it over time.
I was wrong. He continued to hold firm in not wanting a wedding band. He hates things on his hands, can’t wear it for work, and wouldn’t be likely to wear it…ever.
At first, this got under my skin, but then it occurred to me: I could buy him a wedding band, he would likely not wear it, and it would be something we could fight about. Great way to start a marriage, huh?
So…I decided to do something a tad (or a LOT) NOT traditional — I didn’t buy him a wedding band. Instead, I bought him an expensive, and awesome watch:
While it may not be the pleasure of everyone, it seemed a reasonable compromise that J and I could both live with.
And, for the ceremony…because I didn’t think “with this watch…” an option that wouldn’t confuse the masses, we borrowed the ring his grandfather wore:
I was more than happy to have a wedding band to go with my gorgeous engagement ring, however, the engagement ring didn’t come with a matching band.
Not to worry…I found this band, with the help of one of my bridesmaids, that goes nicely with the ring, can be worn alone, and didn’t cost the fortune that having a band made to fit the engagement ring exactly would have (and having a band like this would mean not being able to wear alone).
Have you, or do you know someone, who has deviated from the ‘traditional’ exchange of rings? I’m curious to know…what did you <they> do?