Wedding Details: To Ring or Not To Ring?

How do you feel about your significant other not wearing a wedding band?

When J and I got engaged, he was adamant from the very beginning that he didn’t want a wedding band. I blew that idea off initially, thinking I could get him to warm to it over time.

I was wrong. He continued to hold firm in not wanting a wedding band. He hates things on his hands, can’t wear it for work, and wouldn’t be likely to wear it…ever.

At first, this got under my skin, but then it occurred to me: I could buy him a wedding band, he would likely not wear it, and it would be something we could fight about. Great way to start a marriage, huh?

So…I decided to do something a tad (or a LOT) NOT traditional — I didn’t buy him a wedding band. Instead, I bought him an expensive, and awesome watch:


While it may not be the pleasure of everyone, it seemed a reasonable compromise that J and I could both live with.

And, for the ceremony…because I didn’t think “with this watch…” an option that wouldn’t confuse the masses, we borrowed the ring his grandfather wore:

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I was more than happy to have a wedding band to go with my gorgeous engagement ring, however, the engagement ring didn’t come with a matching band.

Not to worry…I found this band, with the help of one of my bridesmaids,  that goes nicely with the ring, can be worn alone, and didn’t cost the fortune that having a band made to fit the engagement ring  exactly would have (and having a band like this would mean not being able to wear alone).


Have you, or do you know someone, who has deviated from the ‘traditional’ exchange of rings? I’m curious to know…what did you <they> do?


5 responses to “Wedding Details: To Ring or Not To Ring?

  • Lisa A.

    I don’t know anyone who skipped the rings, but I do know a couple who did the rings and the man never wears it. I think you made a wise choice. The watch is really really nice (I should know….I helped pick it out!) and I’m sure it is just as meaningful to Joe as a ring is to you! Your rings are gorgeous, BTW!

    • simplyeclecticlife

      Thank you! I LOVE my rings – couldn’t have asked for anything better! I think J is much happier with the watch. You are right that it carries the same meaning for him as a ring would AND it should last forever so can be passed down just the same as a ring would.

  • Things i love.....

    What a great idea. I never thought about the ring thing as i assumed my hubby would wear one and thankfully he does. At the end of the day you guys know you are married to each other. You dont need a ring for that. Now he has a very cool watch!
    Loving your wedding band by the way 🙂

    • simplyeclecticlife

      Thanks so much! I’m quite pleased with how everything worked out…and we are both so happy! Plus, you are SO right, at the end of the day, we know we are married!
      Thanks for your comment and so glad you stopped by —

  • Lisa A.

    I have an update to my earlier comment. Just found out that the husband who wouldn’t wear his ring got a tattoo of his wife’s name on his ring finger! His first ever tattoo! Wife is very pleased! THAT says forever, I suppose! LOL!

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